Lifestyle

Self-Sabotage
“Thomas Edison failed more than 1000 times while trying to invent the light-bulb! Every-time he failed, he declared that he found another way to NOT invent the light-bulb.” Are you screwing yourself over? Who here has self-sabotaged before? Raise your hand and join the club! Why do we do this? Well, I think that's a great question to ask because it seems quite bizarre that we would sabotage ourselves from getting what we want! We're peculiar beings, aren't we? Self-sabotage is an interesting phenomena. Especially because I don't think the body wants to self-destruct. As a matter of fact, I think it could be quite the opposite! What if self-sabotage was our own body trying to protect us from ourselves and it had nothing to do with screwing ourselves over other than the perception of such by the inability of our conscious minds to understand what's up? How could this be?
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A Work in Progress
We're all works in progress doing the best we can with what we know (and doing the best we can given the circumstances of our lives). Perfection is an illusion. Ideal happenings don't exist. What we want never unfolds as we envisioned it. That's the name of the game. We only know what we know, and we don't know what we don't know. Life is a journey of uncovering that which we don't know to make the unknown known. If we had it all figured out, there wouldn't be much point to the quest of life. The hero's journey is about self-discovery through constant micro-journeys jump started with calls to action, followed by facing dragons, and finally coming full circle with the treasure in hand. Journey - challenge - victory. And, victory can mean getting yourself beaten down to a fine pulp. Sometimes you have to lose to win.
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Goals Versus Rituals
"Life is not about the end result—it's about the process of transformation. It's about witnessing yourself re-invent yourself, and evolving into a new person." Making a clear distinction between goals and rituals is a SUPER important line to draw in the sand. Goals = something you achieve. Rituals = the habits you execute on a daily basis to move you towards your goals. Goals = outcomes. Rituals = steps. Do you want to focus on the outcome or the steps? I suggest the latter! Goals get you excited, but often can get you equally overwhelmed. You want to envision what you want and think about it from time to time, but you don't want to get caught up in the imagination of things for too long. Once you know what you want, it's all about setting up the rituals to get you from where you are to where you want to be.
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Time with Yourself
"Surrender. Detach. Align. Explore." In the fast-pace World that we live in, it's sometimes quite hard to find ample time for yourself. It's so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day busyness, that we forget about the importance and necessity of connecting to our inner-being. Life is full of endless things to do, and if you had multiple lifetimes at your disposal, you'd still have a hard time doing everything that there is that can be done! With that being said, it's about managing yourself (and your goals, dreams, and desires) within the construct of the finite lifetime we have.
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Get What You Really Want
"Human decision making is like a tiny rider on a massive elephant. The rider may think he’s in charge, but the elephant will always win. The Elephant, The Rider, and The Path are a great framework for understanding yourself and what drives you. All human change depends on it." Have you ever acted against your better judgment? Of course you have! We all have. Sometimes you do things that you later regret. And this keeps you from achieving the body that you want. You hit snooze rather than waking up early to exercise before work. You blow off your healthy eating plan to indulge in a hamburger and fries. You start an exercise program only to drop out two weeks into it. These regrettable actions prevent you from achieving your goals and keep you stuck.
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Your Relationship With Food
“Break away from the negativity surrounding food. Allow yourself to take this journey one step at a time, and realize that no matter what that this is a process.” All of us, whether we know it or not, have a relationship with food. Being that eating is essential for survival, it’s fairly reasonable to expect that over time we all develop our own habits, preferences, and feelings about food. This relationship begins when we’re very young, when we try something delicious (or disgusting) for the first time, beginning to develop our preferences and tastes. It continues through our upbringing when we are exposed to family recipes, cultural practices, and rituals around eating, which shapes our emotional attachment to food. Then, in adulthood, we gain more agency in our food choices, further developing our own tastes and habits.
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On Seeing the Forest for the Trees
"The reality is that just like most things, getting fit and staying fit takes time, patience, and effort." The health and fitness industry has long been inundated with phoney, one-stop solutions. They make us believe that achieving our goals is as simple as taking a pill, avoiding one type of food, or buying some expensive, goofy-looking exercise contraption. We want solutions, and we don’t want to wait for them. As unrealistic as that is, it’s what we all want. However, the reality is that just like most things, getting fit and staying fit takes time, patience, and effort. Those are the three major tenets of achieving any kind of fitness goal. It’s the unglamorous truth that is behind getting results. You have to work for them.
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Lead by Example
“Be the change you want to see in the World.” This is one of my favourite quotes. The sentiment here is one of ownership and personal responsibility. As frustrating as it sometimes can be, the world does not conform to our will. While we may not have total agency over the world around us, we do have agency over ourselves. We can tell ourselves our problems come from the outside in, but the solution is always from the inside out.
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A State of Gratitude
"We don’t need anything more to make ourselves whole when we live in a state of gratitude." I’m sure many of you have experienced negative self-talk. In fact, I’d go as far as to say we all have experienced this at times in our lives. We get down on ourselves and the voice in our heads seems to never have anything good to say. This is often caused by low self-esteem and fear. These fears are rooted deep in us, and are often enforced by the images we see around us. We live in a society that tells us we are not good enough, that we need to buy things to improve ourselves. So the self-talk persists and we become trapped in a vicious cycle.
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Simple and Easy Weight Loss Tips
Having personally undergone my own weight-loss journey in the past, losing almost 120 lbs, I know how difficult and daunting the process can be. We often perceive it as a complete overhaul, a 180 degree lifestyle change. We feel like we have to start from scratch with a brand-new, complicated diet, and an intensive, gruelling exercise regimen. The reality is that those kinds of drastic changes are just not realistic for most people. We have jobs, families, and commitments that require our time and attention, and massive overhauls to our lifestyle simply won’t fit into our lives. The truth is, the best way to start any kind of weight-loss or fitness journey is with small, incremental steps. I’m going to share with you some simple tips to implement that will help you start your weight-loss journey, without completely losing sight of the rest of your life and commitments!
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